IN THIS LESSON

Lesson 3: We Have Nothing to Talk About
Have you ever sat across from your partner on a date night, only to realize the conversation stays stuck in one person’s world—or worse, drifts to superficial topics about neighbors or coworkers? What was meant to deepen your connection only highlights the distance between you.

This lesson explores the critical role of staying connected to yourself as the foundation for true intimacy. When we avoid our inner world—our thoughts, feelings, and truths—we inadvertently avoid the vulnerability required to connect deeply with our partner. Intimacy begins within. Only by cultivating self-awareness and self-connection can we bridge the gap and experience meaningful closeness in our relationships.

Journal Promts

Journal Prompts

  1. Reflect on the last time you felt disconnected from yourself. What were you avoiding, and why?

  2. What does intimacy with yourself look and feel like? How often do you make space for it?

  3. Recall a recent conversation with your partner where you felt a lack of connection. How were you showing up in that moment?

  4. What is one truth about yourself—an emotion, desire, or fear—that you’ve been hesitant to share with your partner? Why?

  5. How would staying deeply connected to yourself change the way you experience intimacy in your relationship?

Connection with your partner

Conversation Starters with Your Partner

  1. When you think about staying connected to yourself, what does that mean for you? How does it impact the way you show up in our relationship?

  2. Can you recall a time when we had a conversation that brought us closer? What made it feel intimate or meaningful?

  3. How do you feel when our conversations drift to surface-level topics or other people’s worlds? What would you like to talk about instead?

  4. What is one thing you’ve been feeling or thinking about lately that you haven’t shared with me?

  5. How can we create more space for vulnerability and self-connection in our time together?

Practice

There are many yoga and somatic exercises to physically practice opening your heart and signaling your nervous system that its safe to slow down and receive